{"id":199,"date":"2016-12-26T14:14:00","date_gmt":"2016-12-26T14:14:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.strongwithmitzi.net\/blog\/?p=199"},"modified":"2021-06-21T18:42:18","modified_gmt":"2021-06-21T18:42:18","slug":"strong-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.strongwithmitzi.net\/blog\/strong-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"STRONG RELATIONSHIPS"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

As I sit down with a few notes and a blank page, I reflect on the word relationships<\/strong>. How do they work in my life? Whom do I have relationships with? Are they positive or negative? Who\u2019s in my corner? Are they true? Do I trust them? Are they encouraging or do they sabotage? Who are the motivators in my achievements? When you search for those answers, the revelation could shock you. I am not afraid to say that I have few friends but the greatest friends I could ask for. I seek positivity within my environment. Sharing myself with others and being good, gracious, and kind are the monumental actions to divide with friends, family, and strangers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is your question:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What do I do with those people that bring me down, belittle me, make me feel like I\u2019m not worthy, destroy my dreams, constantly speak negative about others, weigh on my thoughts, etc.?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all have those people. I have one word for you. Boundaries! It\u2019s time to set them for yourself. For me, it was with a very close family member.   I found myself at a crossroad of being tired of trying to appease someone that is clearly struggling with something within herself. The hardest realization for me was I can\u2019t help her. The straw that broke the camels back was the attack against my children and my husband. At that moment, I made a vow to never allow her to hurt me again. A quick deletion from all social media was my first move. She could only reach me by a phone call. At that point, I reserved the right to always say good-bye. We are at a better place, but it was boundaries that had to be established in order to get there. Never have I regretted this decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the health and fitness industry, becoming a better you is the greatest place to be ridiculed. Life does not differ between skinny, fat, short, tall, athletic or the I don\u2019t care personalities. Some people just don\u2019t want you to succeed no matter if it\u2019s weight loss, strength training, getting faster, eating right, living healthier, having more energy, or regaining control of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

WHY? WHY? WHY?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a story for you. The story of my life. I am at a birthday party with moms sitting around a table chatting. The mother of the birthday child walks up and asks \u201cwould anyone like cake?\u201d She abruptly turns to me and says \u201cI know you don\u2019t want any!\u201d GULP! How embarrassed was I? It is a very uncomfortable feeling to constantly be picked on for food choices. I get it everywhere I go. Here is the greatest thing. I love cake and I eat cake when I want it. I just didn\u2019t want any cake that day. It is a great thing called food freedom. The book is fantastic. Melissa Hartwig writes Food Freedom Forever. I deal with these types of comments in every social situation. I handle it with a smile when I really want to be a crouching tiger and pounce on someone. That day may come, I\u2019m just hopeful not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s one more while I\u2019m at it. I went with a friend to a local school fundraising event. There was a fantastic buffet of green beans, brisket, mashed potatoes, salad, and bread pudding. I had a little of all of it. I sat down and I know at least 6 people asked \u201cwell what are you eating?\u201d I was proud to say I tasted a little of everything. They were astonished. There were even those that put mashed potatoes in my face and asked if I\u2019d like a bite. It made me happy to say \u201cI had some but thank you.\u201d That tiger stayed contained yet again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These constant relationships could cause a major back slide on your climb to the top of your triangle. Think about how often people comment on those around that do not make healthy lifestyle choices as opposed to those that do. Can\u2019t you hear them? Why isn\u2019t she eating that? She is too thin, she can eat 2 cheeseburgers and not gain weight. She is missing out. Why doesn\u2019t she just cheat or treat herself? She brings her own food everywhere she goes? This is my favorite\u2026 She doesn\u2019t even have to work at it? WWWHHHHHAAAATTTTTT????? YES, I DO!<\/strong> That comes a little later in my blogs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you ever hear someone say, \u201cyou should not eat that much?\u201d I don\u2019t hear anyone at Christmas dinner say, \u201cyou shouldn\u2019t have that!\u201d. I\u2019ve never been a restaurant and someone order and I say \u201care you really going to eat that cheesy pasta or that bacon cheeseburger or dessert?\u201d NO, but hell, what a shock to the person if someone did. Why? Because it\u2019s not socially acceptable. Someone will get sued on that note. Someone will think you are better than them if the tables are turned. Why is it ok to pick on the little people?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I promise there is no size in life that makes one person better than another. We are all on equal ground. It is your relationship within yourself that puts the strain on how you view others. Love yourself first.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is time to take a stand for what you want. Stop being scared to admit that you want more for your health, your family, and your love of life. Stop allowing people to run over you and cloud your path. I don\u2019t care who it is, your mom, your sister, your husband, your kids, your coworkers, your best friend, or your significant other. It is time to put this in check.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I received this text message from a friend of mine not too long ago. It read.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Loved your Facebook post about size attacks. I couldn\u2019t post there because I don\u2019t want to publicly talk about my dear mother. I am far from a zero but I have been feeling the pressure from friends and family about food choices. My mother was always encouraging me to lose weight but now that I am working on it, they always make snide comments about me eating cauliflower in place of everything! So frustrating, they act like cauliflower is so odd, it is a vegetable, I don\u2019t understand the big deal. Anyway, Thank you for the article.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

That article was found on Facebook and called, You Attack My Size 0 But I Can\u2019t Attack Your Size 16.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Commit to those who strengthen you. Surround yourself with positive people. Love and acknowledge those that pick you up at your low moments and high five you at your best. Be done with negative comments, with being mocked, and be STRONG with the person that should fulfill you, YOU!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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